Advice & Support for Domestic Violence & Abuse

 

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Are you experiencing domestic violence and abuse?

+ How do I know if I am experiencing domestic violence & abuse?

How do I know if I am experiencing domestic violence & abuse?

Domestic violence is physical, sexual, psychological or financial violence that takes place within an intimate or family-type relationship and that forms a pattern of coercive and controlling behaviour. This can include forced marriage and ‘honour crimes’.

All forms of domestic violence come from the abuser’s desire for power and control over other family members or intimate partners.

This list explains some of the ways in which a partner or family member can be abusive and can help you to recognise if you, or someone you know, are in an abusive relationship:

Physical violence

  • Punching
  • Slapping
  • Hitting
  • Biting
  • Pinching
  • Kicking
  • Pulling hair
  • Pushing,
  • Shoving
  • Burning
  • Strangling

Verbal abuse

  • Shouting
  • Mocking
  • Accusing
  • Name calling
  • Being verbally threatening

Sexual violence

  • Using force
  • Threats or intimidation to make you perform sexual acts
  • Having sex with you when you don’t want to have sex
  • Any degrading treatment based on your sexual orientation

Isolation

  • Monitoring or blocking your telephone calls
  • Telling you where you can and cannot go
  • Preventing you from seeing friends and relatives

Harassment

  • Following you
  • Checking up on you
  • Opening your mail
  • Repeatedly checking to see who has telephoned you
  • Embarrassing you in public

Threats

  • Making angry gestures
  • Using physical size to intimidate you
  • Shouting you down
  • Destroying your possessions
  • Breaking things
  • Punching walls
  • Wielding weapons
  • Threatening to kill or harm you and the children

Disrespect

  • Persistently putting you down in front of other people
  • Not listening or responding when you talk
  • Interrupting your telephone calls
  • Taking money from you without asking
  • Refusing to help with childcare or housework

Pressure tactics

  • Sulking
  • Threatening to withhold money/disconnect the telephone/take the car away/commit suicide/take the children away/report you to welfare agencies unless you comply with his demands regarding bringing up the children
  • Lying to your friends and family about you
  • Telling you that you have no choice in any decisions

Breaking trust

  • Lying to you
  • Withholding information from you
  • Being jealous
  • Having other relationships
  • Breaking promises and shared agreements

Denial

  • Saying the abuse doesn’t happen
  • Saying you caused the abusive behaviour
  • Being publicly gentle and patient
  • Crying and begging for forgiveness
  • Promising it will never happen again

Domestic violence & abuse of any kind is never okay and never your fault.

+ Freedom Programme 2022

Freedom Programme 2022

The Freedom Programme is a rolling programme and the aim is to support women who have experienced or are experiencing domestic violence.

The programme aims to support women to make sense of how his abusive behaviour has impacted on you and your children and how you can change this and gain your own power back.

The first programme has been condensed to enable women with childcare commitments to attend before the Summer holidays.

10th June The Dominator
17th June The Bully & The Headworker
24th June The Jailer & The Sexual Controller
1st July The Badfather & The Effects on Children (Part 1 & 2)
8th July The King of the Castle, The Persuader & The Liar
15th July Warning Signs “So what about me?” and Next Steps

Would you like to speak with a specialist worker from Wycombe Women’s Aid who is based in the 3 surgeries of Bourne End & Wooburn Green Medical Centre?

Please contact Anna, in confidence, by phone, text or WhatsApp on 07483 993098; Monday to Friday between 9.00am and 4.30pm.

  • If she does not answer, please leave her a message with safe times she can contact you and whether it is safe for her to leave you a voicemail or send you a text.
  • Information will not be shared with the Medical Centre or placed on your medical records (unless with prior consent).

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